SHAFAQNA – The Grand Ayatollah Sobhani answered a question about obeying the parents.
Question: If in a disputed case the father and the mother order the child differently, what is the duty of the child ethically and according to the religion in such a dispute?
The Grand Ayatollah Sobhani: Obeying the parents is not Wajib in all cases; disobedience is Haram; whenever in these issues, disobedience is not the case, (must) do whatever is better in his/her opinion.
Source: PERSIAN SHAFAQNA